Modesty

Modesty is the citadel of beauty.

Demades


A huge part of my style philosophy and about the only ironclad rule about style I have is modesty.

Modesty-1 : freedom from conceit or vanity
2 : propriety in dress, speech, or conduct

Modesty is dressing in a way that is not purposefully sexually provocative. I'm not saying don't wear clothes that look good. But am saying examine yourself before you walk out the door. Is too much skin showing? Is something too tight? What is the overall effect of what you're wearing. The status quo today is "if you've got it, flaunt it" but that isn't what God says. He wants us as young women to respect ourselves and our brothers in Christ by adorning ourselves in a Christlike manner. Treat yourself like a treasure. You don't wear your most valuable jewelry everywhere, all the time, in front of everyone. You save it for special occasions. Your body is a jewel and the only special occasion worthy enough for your "treasure" to be seen is when you're with the person who has committed themselves to you for life privately and publicly, meaning your spouse.To be quite honest, anyone else who isn't willing to commit to you publicly and privately but wants to see you, feel you, and have sex with you is using you for their own gratification as nice as they may seem about it and you're doing the same if you treat others that way.

Desire is a powerful beautiful thing in the context of marriage, but outside of that framework. outside of that protective boundary, desire becomes selfish lust that cares only for satisfying itself and little to nothing for the object of desire. Modesty for both men and women is the first line of defense against such objectification and ideas of low self worth. The body is not being hidden because it is dirty or ugly, it's being hidden because it is so beautiful and worth so much.

None of this means don't have fun with your clothes. It doesn't mean don't be unique. It means stand up for what is right. Modesty. Every outfit you see on this site will be modest and if you have a complaint please send me a comment and I will take care (within reason, obviously people have differing opinions about what is and isn't modest; the most important thing is the intent)

Romans 12:2

Do not conform any longer to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God's will is—his good, pleasing and perfect will.